The primary place where our integrity is tested is in relationships. This happens in relationships of all kinds, but takes on a different spin in a love relationship. When one or both of the partners in the relationship isn’t secure in their truth, they open the door for the relationship to turn into co-dependence. This then becomes what A Course In Miracles calls a ‘special’ relationship—one where a partner expects the other partner to complete something they believe is missing in their self. Then when the endorphins wear off (at about two years in) this ‘special love’ relationship rapidly becomes a ‘special HATE relationship due to the resentment and judgment than build up when one tries to be something they think the other desires, and it’s out of alignment with who they truly are!

So how can we stay in a place of integrity when we fall in love?
– first, get clear on your personal truth and core values BEFORE you enter into a relationship with someone (for many, this means taking time off to figure this out!)
– second, communicate honestly with your partner
– finally, relate from the heart—without judgment—always seeing the other’s truth, Light and love, and not their physical self

We do our best growing in relationships, so honor the path!